Q. Sir, at the age of 50 I have fallen in love. I'm married and have three children, all grown up. The person I love has put sindoor and married me but not in front of the society. Now what should I do? He had faced many problems in life and he alone without his wife has brought up his children. I can't see him crying. Please advise me.

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A: Your action at this stage in your life is certainly inappropriate. More than the social denigration that such actions invite, you must understand that it is against religious principles despite whatever justification you have offered. Civilised human beings should abide by scriptural regulations. The Supreme Lord of lords Krishna clarifies the necessity for human beings to strictly adhere to scriptural advocacy as well as the consequences for ignoring the same in the following verses (16.23 & 24) of the Gita:

 

yah shastra-vidhim utsrijya
vartate kama-karatah

na sa siddhim avapnoti

na sukham na param gatim

He who discards scriptural injunctions and acts according to his own whims attains neither perfection, nor happiness, nor the supreme destination.

tasmac-chastram pramanam te

karyakarya-vyavasthitau
jnatva shastra-vidhanoktam
karma kartum iharhasi

One should therefore understand what is duty and what is not duty by the regulations of the scriptures. Knowing such rules and regulations, one should act so that he may gradually be elevated.

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Therefore, you must come out of this type of illegitimate relationship if you want to live peacefully. We must all understand that the suffering in the human society is due to whimsical behaviour in the past lives disregarding scriptural instructions. Everyone is put into various types of miseries due to aparaadha (offences) in the past. One can always help others as friends without getting into a formal relationship. We must try to tolerate all reverses in life and sincerely pray to Lord Shri Krishna for help. The great devotees like Mother Kunti and Queen Draupadi in the Mahabharata were protected and saved from all trying situations by Shri Krishna. There is no other remedy. The easy way to attain peace under all circumstances is to chant the holy names of the Lord - Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare, Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare.